Tuesday, August 07, 2007
I been trying to work on this post since Andrew and I came back from our weekend with the in laws late Sunday evening. Normally stupid comments about the adoption don't effect me but this one did. Our weekend with the family was a really good one (I'll post all about it in another post).
Now, we have all heard the comments that people feel they have the right to say once they hear that you are adopting.
Now you will get pregnant...............
Will she speak English.........
How much are you paying for her.............
Why go there when there are so many children here...
Are you going to tell her she is adopted..........
And the list goes on but on Sunday I was floored by what was said to me. We were sitting in my MIL's kitchen when my FIL's cousin and his wife stopped over to day goodbye before they headed back to the island with their grandchildren. The adoption was brought up and she asked well when are you getting her. My response was "not for quite awhile, at least 2 years before we travel" She asked WHY? I tried to explain to her the best I about the China program, to which she said to me ( hold on to your hats for this one) "Well you should cancel the adoption because by the time you get your daughter you will be too old to enjoy her and raise her, you will not have any patience for a toddler at that age". Andrew is 45 & I'm 44. We have a godchild who's parents were 50 when they gave birth to her and her twin. Even if we don't get Aislinn till we both hit 50 I don't think its the age that matters but the person.
No, I didn't say anything to her, I was to stunned plus I never talk back to my elders. I was tempted but at a lost for words.
As Always Be Good & Be Safe
Labels: stupid comments
| posted by Unknown at 10:08 AM
This is an account of our lifes as we head down the path of life towards our first child. An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle, but will never break." --An ancient Chinese belief
CURRENT ADOPTION STATUS
- Get Your Own
Girly Comments & Graphics
Myspace Comments @ DazzleJunction.com
Myspace Comments @ DazzleJunction.com
Girly Comments & Graphics
- scroll down to bottom of the page and click on the stop button to turn off the music
- CCAA Web Site
- Our Agency
- My Blog was Blinged by: Sara Lane
- With the recent tragedy that happened in Minneapol...
- No matter how hard I try, this is how we end up sl...
- Wow I can't believe how the time is flying! I kno...
- OK so my family thinks I have gone around the bend...
- Where was I when the lights wentout?Yesterday, Lon...
- Today is my middle sisters birthday and although i...
- Five years ago today, my middle sister Jami...
- The original Desperate Housewives! One of my favo...
- Quiet 4th planned this year. Andrew decided to wor...
- Create your own at BlingyBlob.comWith the wait inc...
Beijing |
Create your own visitor map!